Triangle Family Church Sunday Service on Feb. 22, 2026
Music Offering
Sermon:
The sermon, delivered on True Parents’ birthday, centers on the theme “We Have the Key to Happiness,” emphasizing wisdom, responsibility, and appreciation as foundations for a fulfilling life. The speaker begins by referencing biblical scriptures—Matthew 16:19 and Proverbs 3:13—that highlight the spiritual keys to heaven and the value of wisdom as essential for happiness. Across various cultural and religious contexts, the pursuit of happiness is universal, with many traditions and societies acknowledging it as a fundamental right or goal. The United States Declaration of Independence, for example, explicitly includes the pursuit of happiness as a God-given right.
The message stresses that while governments have roles in creating supportive environments, happiness is ultimately an individual responsibility, heavily influenced by one’s mindset, relationships, and self-awareness. About 70% of one’s happiness comes from personal control, such as nurturing relationships, maintaining health, and managing emotions. The speaker draws a poignant example from the Japanese anime Demon Slayer, where a swordsman encourages the protagonist not to let others dictate his fate—a metaphor for taking ownership of one’s happiness.
The sermon discusses the complexities within family relationships, especially between parents and children, and the challenges faced by the second generation in faith communities. Parents often invest their hopes and sacrifices into their children’s futures, but disappointment can arise when children choose different paths. Similarly, children born into religious communities may struggle with imposed expectations, feeling a lack of autonomy in their spiritual or personal lives. The speaker acknowledges that such tensions can lead to bitterness or resentment, but true joy stems from fulfilling authentic desires aligned with one’s original mind, not from external validation or transient pleasures.
The biblical concept of binding and loosing, from Matthew 16:19, is interpreted as the necessity of releasing inner struggles and negative binds to achieve true freedom and happiness. The life and sacrifices of True Parents are presented as a model for releasing the binds of humanity, transforming hardships into opportunities for growth and providence. The speaker reflects on the church’s investments and challenges faced by members, encouraging gratitude and understanding despite difficulties.
Ultimately, the sermon calls for self-reflection, appreciation of life’s lessons, and reclaiming personal responsibility for happiness. It concludes with a prayer for strength, hope, and the ability to unlock happiness through wisdom given by Heavenly Parent and True Parents, particularly for the younger generation facing trials in the church and society.
Highlights
- Biblical foundation: Keys to the Kingdom of Heaven and the value of wisdom as keys to happiness.
- Happiness as a fundamental right: The U.S. Declaration of Independence acknowledges the pursuit of happiness as God-given.
- Personal responsibility: “Do not let others decide your fate”—a key message borrowed from Demon Slayer.
- Family dynamics: The complex emotional realities faced by parents and children in pursuing happiness.
- Challenges of the second generation in faith communities and their struggle for authentic happiness.
- Spiritual liberation: Binding and loosing as metaphor for releasing inner struggles to find peace.
- Gratitude and reflection: Encouragement to appreciate hardships as part of God’s providence and personal growth.
Transcript
Slide 1
Today's message is titled "We Have the Key to Happiness."
This sermon explores wisdom, responsibility, and appreciation as foundations for true happiness.
Slide 2
Let us read Bible verses.
I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven, and whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.
Matthew 16:19
Happy is the man who finds wisdom,
And the man who gains understanding;
Proverbs 3:13
The first verse says Jesus gave us the keys to the kingdom of heaven. The second verse indicates that individuals who attain wisdom and understanding are considered fortunate, blessed, and capable of experiencing genuine happiness.
Slide 3
Across cultures and religions, people seek happiness.
According to the Divine Principle, every human being is struggling to attain life-long happiness and overcome misfortune.
In Buddhism, the ultimate objective is to end the cycle of suffering and to achieve enlightenment, liberation, and enduring peace.
The question remains: who possesses the key to happiness?
In many countries, pursuing happiness is considered a basic human right.
For instance, the United States Declaration of Independence lists the "pursuit of happiness" as an essential, absolute right.
The Declaration emphasizes that "Life, Liberty and the pursuit of happiness" are rights granted to all people by their Creator.
Slide 4
Should governments be responsible for citizens' happiness? Governments contribute significantly by ensuring safety and providing social infrastructure, enabling individuals to seek happiness. Governments hold a certain degree of responsibility, but not complete responsibility.
AI replies to the question; “who is responsible for happiness?”
Ultimately, happiness is primarily an individual responsibility, requiring self-awareness, personal growth, and self-love to cultivate. While roughly (30%) is determined by genetics and external factors play a role, approximately (70%) is within personal control. Nurturing good relationships, maintaining health, and managing one's own emotional reactions are key.
Slide 5
I'd like to mention a word from the Japanese animation "Demon Slayer." You might be thinking, "Demon Slayer again?" But don't worry—I'm only bringing up one word this time.
Do not let others decide your fate when it comes to life and death.
A renowned swordsman scolded the main character with this word as he pleaded for his sister’s survival. As previously discussed, his family fell victim to a demon, leaving only his younger sister alive—transformed into a demon herself. The swordsman was preparing to kill the sister in her demonic form.
Although it is a harsh word given the main character's situation, it compelled him to persevere and motivated him to fight against demons and save people’s lives.
There are still places where citizens face execution for minor offenses, such as listening to K-POP songs or watching Korean dramas like Squid Game. However, most of us are fortunate to live in a time and place where fundamental human rights are respected. It is unlikely that we will ever find ourselves in a situation where others determine whether we live or die.
To put the word of swordsman another way: Do not let others decide your fate of happiness or unhappiness. This may be relevant to our circumstances.
Slide 6
We recognize that happiness is largely our own responsibility. Still, the pursuit of happiness isn't straightforward, since it is deeply influenced by our connections with others and cannot be found in isolation. Our relationships play a significant role in our well-being, but this doesn't mean that others control whether we are happy or unhappy.
Let's discuss family relationships and happiness. Parents often find joy in watching their children grow, though they may also face challenges and pain. Throughout their lives, parents dedicate everything to their children, driven by hope and expectations. However, if children choose paths different from what their parents wished or expected, parents can experience a range of emotions including disappointment, betrayal, sadness, and a sense of loss.
In Unificationists’ beliefs, even God suffers because of human beings, who are considered God's children. Is God happy or unhappy? God is a perfect being. God might have stated that I educated Adam and Eve perfectly. Their fall is their problem not my problem. God did not have headache and suffering of the restoration. Instead, God took His children’s problems as His problems. God is suffering because of His love toward His children.
We aren't perfect parents, which means we face challenges. We're always reflecting on whether we've done enough for our children.
I've read stories of parents who, after losing their children, found ways to move on and heal. It's natural for us to dwell on what we've lost, especially when it comes to beloved people or meaningful things. Yet these parents shifted their perspective—rather than dwelling on their loss, they focused on what remained. They chose to treasure and value every moment they had shared with their children.
Through expressing love and appreciation toward their children, parents can influence and manage their emotional well-being in relation to their children's experiences.
Now, let's consider the children's viewpoint. Children are typically considered to be dependent individuals.
They depend on their parents for vital support.
The second generation faces unique challenges in their pursuit of happiness, particularly within church and family contexts.
Slide 7
Children raised in our church may express:
I've never chosen to follow this faith.
I don't know who True Parents are.
Yet, I'm still expected to believe in True Parents and act accordingly.
The church holds authority over my happiness, and I feel I don't control my own life.
In Japan, some children cannot afford college because their parents donated excessively. They may deeply resent their parents and the church.
In extreme cases, these challenges may result in deep-seated bitterness or a desire for revenge against the church. Will the dissolution of the church make them happy? It might bring them brief happiness.
The Divine Principle teaches that joy comes from fulfilling desires rooted in one's original mind, and that temporary happiness derived from negative desires is unlikely to last. This perspective encourages young people to seek fulfillment through authentic desires and positive relationships, rather than external validation or rebellion. By addressing these challenges with compassion and understanding, communities can support the next generation in finding lasting happiness.
Slide 8
Today's Bible verse says:
“Whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.”
Traditionally, this means the church's actions reflect God's will: "binding" prohibits sins and curses, while "loosing" permits freedom and blessings.
A "bind" refers to a difficult or problematic situation, while "loose" means to set free or release. One of Jesus' main teachings is to love your enemies. These enemies are not always external threats; sometimes, they are inner struggles that disturb our peace of mind. If we keep these binds in our minds, they also persist in heaven. Conversely, when we let go of such binds, they are released in heaven as well.
Every effect has a cause or purpose; cause and effect work together. There is a specific reason or intention behind the birth of the second generation within our church community.
The process of releasing binds involves reflecting on their underlying meanings and appreciating their significance.
Slide 9
The life course of True Parents serves as a model for releasing binds of humanity, which are God’s binds as well. They have been dedicated to removing constraints from the past, referred to as indemnity, transforming them into positive opportunities for the future. They expressed gratitude even for hardships and tragedies, such as imprisonment and the loss of their children, utilizing these experiences to advance God's providence.
Minyoung’s workshop presentations taught me a lot. At times, I questioned why our church invested so heavily in VIPs, large events, buildings, and similar expenses. Through these presentations, I came to understand that these decisions were guided by a well-defined vision and purpose rooted in God’s providence.
People who feel bitter towards the church because of the heavy burden of donations may find it difficult to see that their giving was part of God's providence and appreciate what they've contributed. However, I hope that someday they will be able to do this.
Minyoung shared in her sermon that some Japanese second-generation members have begun to reflect on their faith and express gratitude toward the church and the first generation. This brings us hope.
Slide 10
If we believe that our unhappiness is caused by others—whether it's the government, church, family, or friends—we are allowing them to determine whether we are happy or unhappy. We should keep in mind that our happiness is within our own control, and unlocking it involves reflecting on the deeper meaning of each situation, particularly those we find unpleasant, and appreciating what they teach us.
